ARE YOU READY TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP? THINGS TO PONDER!

5 Oct

Every now and again amongst all the rubbish and filth and useless preening on Face-book you come across a gem! Some-one posted this on a page I subscribe to: I have read it before but thought it a good one to share!

There are a lot of people who are insecure about themselves; unsure of their identity. These sort of people,interact with the opposite sex out ofloneliness.
They flirt, start relationships,and even sleep with others because of loneliness.
Loneliness should not be the reason you enter a relationship. If it is, you either become too dependent on your partner or cannot fully reciprocate their feelingsgenuinely.

 

A RELATIONSHIP is a partnership, to help and support each other in love; It is not supposed to be a temporary band-aid. Many who view it as the latter, end up hurting someone or being hurt. Before you get in a relationship, you must be comfortable being alone.
To get to the place where you don’t need the opposite sex to make you feel good about yourself; you will be your own validation. You won’t let a few superficial actions make you let your guard down so easily, or give yourself sexually just for more validation.                                               You won’t need the validation from others, but you will enjoy it. It won’t be a need. Self-image should not be influenced by others. Our identity should be set in our minds.                            Your identity is not defined by the opposite sex. It is defined by you.                                        While you are alone it is a great opportunity to get closer to God, and being a child of God is another part of your identity.                                                                                                          By being closer to God you will have new standards for yourself, that will help filter through potential partners instead of falling for those who will just waste your time and attempt to use you. By being able to depend on yourself more, you actually bring more to the table in a relationship. Knowing self allows us to know our short- comings and we can make a conscious decision to  either improve or be complacent. To bring 100% in a relationship or not to be in a relationship. Being with someone should not be a need. Especially if you are not able to be with yourself. Get to know yourself before trying to get to know someone else.

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Bisous

xo – Seanice

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One Response to “ARE YOU READY TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP? THINGS TO PONDER!”

  1. Rhona October 6, 2012 at 11:34 pm #

    Well said, I couldn’t have said this any better!

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