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20 Feb

Boy; It’s like blogging for me lately has become as difficult as trying to get a kardashian to read a book!
anyhooo! here we go- it’s been a while since i shared my inspiration with you so – I wanted to share this must read
with you!!

Umair Haque (ranked one of the world’s most influential management thinkers by Thinkers50) is my source of inspiration today and he writes about DOING MEANINGFUL WORK!
He writes: maybe the real depression we’ve got to contend with isn’t merely one of how much economic output we’re generating — but what we’re putting out there, and why.

Call it a depression of human potential, a tale of human significance being willfully squandered on mediocre endeavors

If that’s the best we can do, no wonder our economy is falling short of its potential — and no wonder our lives occasionally feel empty, even meaningless. (Even star quarterbacks married to Brazilian supermodels occasionally say to themselves, there’s got to be more than this.) Hence, If we want to do better, I suggest it’s time to get lethally serious about doing stuff that actually matters. So here are three questions to ask about yourself about what you’re spending your life doing:

Does it stand the test of time?

Ponder this for a moment: the vast majority spend the vast majority of our lives sweating, suffering, and slogging mightily over stuff that’s forgotten by next quarter, let alone next year or next century. Call me crazy, but I’d suggest: mattering means building stuff that’s awesome enough to last. Maybe not forever, like Giza’s Pyramids — but surely more than a couple of months, before it’s absent-mindedly tossed into the dustbin of history along with the rest of the flotsam and jetsam of the age of disposable plastic junk. I’d give you a handful of recent real-world examples, but beyond the labors of love a new generation of artisans are working on, whether microbrews, novels, or games, here’s the hard truth: when it comes to the stuff our largest institutions are invested in, I can’t think of any, so poor is our cultural performance at standing the test of time. (Just ask yourself: is anybody really going to be watching Mission Impossible 4 a century from now, except a handful of irony-soaked action-movie-worshipping 22nd century hipsters?). Of course, all that really means is that since nearly everyone seems to suck at standing the test of time, you’ve got a tremendous opportunity not to.

Does it stand the test of excellence?

In most boardrooms, the first and last question asked is: will “the markets,” financial and “consumer,” like your latest shiny trinket slightly better than the next guy’s? Of course, that’s a perfect recipe for mediocrity: to have barely satisfied weary, oppressed, jaded “consumers” already trained to demand the bare McMinimum is to have furiously smashed the glass ceiling of the lowest common mass-market denominator — and little more. Here are some higher bars: do critics, scholars, aficionados, and diehard enemies pan it, or love it? Mattering means recognizing that everyone’s opinion is not created equal — some count more than others, for the simple reason that some opinions are more nuanced, educated, sophisticated, historically grounded, and self-aware than others.

Does it stand the test of you?

Sure, I can understand why the dudes and gals I’ve been overhearing in my little Manhattan adventure are so energized by the stuff they’re “working” on — it feels exciting to be part of a buzzing milieu’s in-crowd. But let’s face it: on our deathbeds, the accomplishments that matter most to most of us probably won’t be recounted thus: “In 2012, I sold another thousand copies of someone else’s middle-of-the-road blockbuster to an overweening VP with really bad hair and worse manners at a giant monopolistic corporation that was destroying my grandkids’ futures. Man, I lived.” So while I too sometimes feel enchanted by the seductive power of glittering fantastic excess that seems to have mesmerized my little informal sample of Manhattanites, I’d also like to challenge them — and you — to consider the questions of mattering in a slightly more sophisticated, humane, considered way. It’s one thing to work on stuff that seems sexy because it’s socially cool and financially rewarding. But fulfillment doesn’t come much from money or cool-power — all the money in the world can’t buy you a searing sense of accomplishment.

Being human is never easy. But that’s the point. Perhaps as an unintended consequence of our relentless quest for more, bigger, faster, cheaper, now, we’ve comfortably acceded to something akin to a minor-league contempt for the richness and grandeur of life unquenchably meaningfully well lived. Hence, call this post my tiny statement of rebellion. Hex me with all the bland management jargon in the world, zap me with all the perfect theories and models you like, but I’ll never, ever accept the idea that triviality, mediocrity, and futility are appropriate goals for any human being, much less our grand, splintering systems of human organization.

We’re all built differently — but none of us is here to not make a difference. So what are your three questions for getting lethally serious about doing stuff that matters?



17 Nov

While seeking out my morning dose of inspiration, I came across a great article by Mike Myatt on Forbes that I think would be a good refresher for those of us that find ourselves in a position to lead, I always wonder why so many times I seldom hear good things about bosses- male or female and the sentence ‘leadership is broken’ made sense…
As an entrepreneur I have approached my companies in a very unconventional manner! I do not allow people to call me boss; i have colleagues not employees and I am transparent about all business operations and finances.
Of course this is easy to do when you have 12 employees in one company and under 20 in another but I really do think we need to breed a new kind of leader…anyway below i share with you from some of the principles the writer Mike Myatt put forward that a great leader needs to have in order to enlist the help of others- after all no man is an island,

1- Don’t be a jerk: While people don’t necessarily have to like you in order to help you, it certainly doesn’t hurt. However I can promise you that if you’re perceived as a jerk people will not only go out of their way not to help you succeed, but they will do everything possible to impede your success. I have long been a believer that contrary to popular opinion, nice guys (and gals) do in fact finish first.

2- Give credit where credit is due: Smart leaders understand there is far more to be gained by giving away credit than by retaining it. The best leaders don’t seek credit – they seek results. They understand the force multiplier that comes via a motivated team effort.

3- Go out of your way to help others: Do unto others – what goes around comes around – you reap what you sow, and any number of other statements to that effect ring true more often than not. If you are sincerely interested in helping others, and make it a habit to go out of your way to do so, then those people will likely be inclined to reciprocate.

4- Know what you want and focus your efforts to that end: You must develop a clear picture of what it is that you want to accomplish, and then apply laser-like focus in the pursuit of your goals.

5- Make your goals known to those that can help you: It is not only important to communicate your vision to those in a position to help you succeed, but always make sure and ask for their help. Don’t be bashful or embarrassed, but rather confidently recruit others to become enablers and evangelists of your cause. You need to believe that one of your top priorities is team building, and consistently seek out greater numbers of people to champion your cause and scale your efforts.

until next time


12 Aug

You can’t operate a company by fear, because the way to eliminate fear is to avoid criticism. And the way to avoid criticism is to do nothing.
Steve Ross

Every day without fail at about 7am -I look for inspiration, that’s right…. I actually LOOK for it, most of us seem to believe we shall stumble upon it or if it’s meant to come; it will- I don’t want to leave my inspiration to chance when I know how important it is to keep myself motivated… – It could be a quote, a few quiet minutes looking at the sky – if i could take a walk i would!

Today I found Mr. Ross very encouraging, So who is Mr. Ross?? Wikipedia says ‘He became the CEO, president and chairman of Warner Communications in 1972. Under Mr. Ross’ leadership, Warner Communications grew from a troubled movie studio into a huge entertainment business.
Steven Ross can be considered a man ahead of his time. Ross moved before many of his competitors to bet heavily on the worldwide potential of cable television, records, videos and other experiments. Some of his ideas were successful and others failed but he definitely influenced the development of media and entertainment with his ideas. “If you’re not a risk-taker,” he once said, “you should get the hell out of business’

of course we’ve all heard the line or something similar, business is not for the faint hearted, if you can’t stand the heat etc… but as I go along I realize some staples.
1- Business when your passionate about it can be very lonely
2- If your in it just to make money it’s doubly hard – so engage in things you are passionate about – it makes living in a house not up to your dreams and going from driving German to Japanese bearable!?
3 – Do it if you Know that even if it flops miserably you would still do it again in a heartbeat!
4 – Even if there were EASIER, FASTER ways to make money you would still choose the business venture you chose
5- It’s not about how educated, savvy, street-smart or connected you are – sure, these things help… but ULTIMATELY it’s down to how resilient you are – really it’s a question of how long can you ‘hang’ in there- and here I was thinking the battle belonged to the smart and the strong! Don’t be fooled 🙂


1 Aug

In life we’re all going to experience rejection in varying degrees. Those of us that are bigger risk takers will receive it by the bucketful, and often. From as early as kindergarten where you were picked last for rounders because you were so small, to the day your bank rejected your business plan and happened to be the 6th Bank to do so. The problem with rejection is its inextricable link to our own feeling of self worth.

I think when I have children this will be one of the biggest lessons I teach them; I have experienced rejection so many times that I lost count- or stopped caring to count, who knows! Thing is, much as it doesn’t hurt any less every time- it would appear that it hurts DIFFERENT because I have learnt to absorb it, let the disappointment course through me in all its sharp and haughty indifference, double over, cry and then at the end of it all, crown the pity party with a non alcoholic champagne and a very saltless tasteless calzone at 8 am the next morning. That’s also when I pick up a pen and write about how I feel!

The thing about rejection is that when we know that there may be a link to our own inadequacies, as strange as it may sound- that’s when the healing can begin! So you weren’t picked to be on the rugby team- truth is your frame is inadequate for RUGBY but not inadequate period, also the injuries can be deadly and it’s not really always the smartest kids that end up there, now is it? also having a small frame is better for other things- a modeling career? the world needs astrophysicists too and maybe that is what you need to focus on.

Sometimes we want things so much that we fail to see the wood for the trees! When I first got cheated on I remember all I could think about was how much I wanted the asshole back- to affirm that i was worthy (I know, worthy of a cheating jerk- the irony!) He took his time about that by the way and I’m happy to report that when he wanted me back, I was well on my way to realizing that the life I wanted for myself did not involve 3 screaming babies and a husband who was out screwing the chic who sold him MTN airtime an hour ago!

Every now and again we do fall short – Is that such a bad thing to admit? Sometimes you’re not ready for it! I pitched for a job that would have paid my company roughly 550, 000 US dollars! We breezed through the first round of interviews and made it to the point where it was between us and one of the biggest telecom companies in the country! We lost. I was crushed. Then I went though my process (the self pity I only allow for 5 brief minutes by the way) When I began to break it down I realized that the scope of work would have consumed me at a point when the company still needed to figure so many things out- we were capable but small and the initial resources necessary to begin the job before we got paid would probably have given me a hernia.

Now; is this Consolation as Ugandan’s would put it? No and i’ll tell you why, because I went through the process at this point with my directors and it we gave it a cold objective once over- complete with financials. Of course sometimes you just lose the deal and it sucks- but NEVER lose perspective because when you do- Something or Someone better comes along and you are too busy licking your wounds to notice them!

So – boyfriend chose some one else over you? Didn’t nail that job interview? Landlord would not give you that great house you wanted? A competitor moved in to the great new space you’ve been planning on for the last year? It all comes down to perspective and choosing the right attitude to go with it, Now go shine! xoxo S


17 Jun

Got this article by “Christian Carter” author of “Catch Him And Keep Him” on a site called from a friend on face-book and I was wondering IF I agreed with all of it…Parts of it like betting on a mans potential make sense..
what do you think?

10 Mistakes Women Make With Men;

MISTAKE #1: Betting Your Love Life On His “Potential”

Do you know any women who want the man they’re dating to behave differently? Of course you do.
And just like me, I’m sure you have friends who date guys who don’t have much going for them or who don’t treat them very well. Somehow these women always have an excuse for the guy’s shortcomings.

What’s going on here? It’s actually very simple.

Women (and men) don’t base their choices of men on how “nice” or “good” someone is to them day-to-day. Women choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what? Some women will continue to put up with a guy that doesn’t treat them very well. Sometimes for months or years…

But why in the world would a woman do that!?

Well, to put it simply, they confuse the strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper “connection”. Women who do this are doomed to end up in failed relationships with the “wrong” guys.

MISTAKE #2: Assuming You “Get” Men & Their Psychology

Men are different from women. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him. Lots of women don’t even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them.

But does the same apply for men?

As you probably already know, men are generally more visual. As a result, they often don’t understand non-verbal communication as well as women. And men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and “intuition”. Women don’t seem to remember this about men.

So do men feel sexually attracted to w0men based just on looks? Or is something else going on? Well, after studying this topic for years now, and talking to thousands of men and women, I can tell you that men have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks. Especially when it comes to longer term relationships. Looks just happen to be the most obvious way…

MISTAKE #3: Pretending To Be Something For A Man
(ooooooh I SOOOOOO Agree with this one!)

In the desire to please a man, women are constantly doing things to get a man’s attention, to get him to like them or to make him more attracted or in love with them. Another HORRIBLE idea. Lots of women mistakenly think that doing unusual things to try and get a guys attention will make him magically see what a great catch they are and want to be with them.
Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to the types of women who kiss up to them, make weak plays for affection or complain to get what they want… EVER. Don’t get me wrong here. Things like being sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine, unselfish, and most of all timely.

You don’t have to act like an “easy” woman for men to like you, and you certainly don’t have to play like he’s some gift to the Earth. Doing these things actually works to subtly, at an subconscious level, lower your social status with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how he sees you as a woman.

MISTAKE #4: Sharing How You “Feel” Too Early With Him

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most women make with men is sharing how they “feel” too early on.

Attractive, single, successful men are rare. They get a LOT of attention from women. Most women don’t realize this, but attractive men are being approached in one way or another all the time by women.
And guess what? Attractive men have usually dated a lot of women.
That’s right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive men off and sends him running away faster than just about anything… It’s a woman who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates. This signals to the man that you’re just like one of those “clingy” stereotype women who want to rush into a relationship and can’t control yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and complete their lives.

MISTAKE #5: Misreading The Important “Signals” That Men Send

Men are constantly communicating how they feel about a woman and giving away big secrets about themselves. Most women don’t pay attention to these signals or recognize them for what they really are.

The signals men send have 4 main levels:
1) Social: Where the man is at in his own life – stability, confidence, direction

2) Emotional: Whether or not he’s “emotionally available”

3) Physical: If he’s attracted to you… and for what reasons

4) Love State: If he’s open to building and growing a relationship in the future

The funny thing is that men send signals in these areas completely on accident. That’s great news to women… Men can’t help it! You need to learn to recognize these signals to get anywhere serious with a man.

MISTAKE #6: Relying On Your Natural Ability To Judge A Man’s Character

People aren’t easy to figure out. Especially men.

From what I’ve seen, both men and women have their own secret ways of saying things. But you can only see these secret communications if you know what to look for. Women communicate with hints, body language, sarcasm, and flirting when they’re first getting to know a man. They can either directly or indirectly let men know if they’re open to something more serious.

Men are different.

Men generally communicate with sarcasm, humor, cockiness and other “indirect” displays of status. VERY RARELY will a man be able to honestly communicate to a woman whether or not he’s ready or capable of developing a meaningful relationship.

Aside from their sexual interests, men send very indirect signals about where they’re at. If you don’t know how to read through the signals men send, then you’ll get the wrong message. Getting the wrong messages from men causes women more pain and heartache than any other issue around. You can avoid this pain if you learn to identify a good man from a bad one.

MISTAKE #7: Expecting A Relationship To Make You Happy

A mistake I’ve seen women make is thinking a guy will change her life and make her happy and fulfilled. And sure, there are situations and relationships where this happens. But those are the exceptions, not the rule. Nothing says “Run!” to a man faster than hearing or sensing that a woman immediately wants him to take care of her.

And the men who ARE looking for this kind of situation aren’t exactly the most healthy, loving, nurturing people out there. Think, “controlling, macho, or serious Mom Issues!”

So let me be clear…
I think it’s important that people help fulfill each other in their lives, whether it’s dating, a relationship, whatever. But if a woman communicates that she’s looking for a guy to take care of her, complete her, make her whole, and all that kind of stuff – it has a VERY negative effect on what the man will think of her. It doesn’t have to be spoken by the woman either…

If a woman thinks or feels this way, the man will see it and pick up on it, regardless. This is arguably the worst thing a woman can do early on when dating a man.
You can get the man interested and involved in your life in a more “natural” way, where he’ll be motivated to make you care about your happiness and fulfillment on his own. This is the only way it really works for people – male or female. Self-motivation is much stronger than external motivation.

MISTAKE #8: Trying To “Convince” Him To Like You Or Love You

What do most women do when they meet a man that they REALLY like… but he’s just not that interested or isn’t as serious? Right! They try to “convince” the man to feel differently.

Well, I have news for you…

But we all do it. Men are the worst at this by the way. They’re always complimenting women who don’t like them and buying them gifts. Women like the behavior sometimes, but it NEVER makes the woman like the man. She might enjoy what she gets out of it, but it doesn’t change the way she FEELS about him. When a man just isn’t interested, women will try and chase, compliment, convince and do their best to change his mind with logical and rational approaches. Bad idea. Another one that will never work.

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing What To Do In Each Type Of Situation

A man has a clear idea of what he wants from a woman…
And I don’t mean just sex.

I know, it might be hard to believe, but if you’re out on a date with a man, he already has an idea of what he wants from you. And if you don’t know HOW to find this out, and you just sit there looking at him and flirting, or trying things you think will make him want you, he won’t help! If you don’t know what to do in each situation, you’ll probably screw it up…and LOSE EVERYTHING.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting Help

This is the biggest mistake of all.
This mistake keeps women from EVER having the kind of success and finding the kind of man and relationship that they truly want. I know, you don’t like to make yourself look weak or helpless. We don’t like to ask for help. But we need to!

Of course I think different situations may call for a different reaction but overall I do think there is a lot of Merit to this guys 10 mistakes article.


2 Jun

The last one and a half months have been extremely imbalanced for me;
I have had NO time for myself or my relationships, having to cancel movie dates, dinners and sacrificing ‘me’ time.

It’s my birthday tomorrow and guess what? yep that’s right – I have a lunch business meeting to tie up shareholding and financial injection into my latest project!!
While I should be doing what most do on their birthday: reflecting on what turning 29 means for me and what I want to do with the rest of my life – it would seem I instead spend my time dealing with some problem or other; the latest being a client who’s name is in the dictionary under Corporate BS – this person is the embodiment…..!

While talking to one of my business partners who has never been formally employed – I looked back on the things I have learnt being employed and now that I am both employed and an employer, what I’d love to share to those climbing the corporate ladder – I came across THIS article that nails it perfectly

Read on

Six Signs of Career Derailment
By Barbara Reinhold,

Getting bumped off the track on your way to the top is every high achiever’s recurring nightmare. How can you be sure it doesn’t happen to you? Research by Michael Lombardo, principal of Lominger Limited, uncovered six indicators of career derailment. If any of them describe you, you’ll know what areas you need to work on:

1. Disagreements with Higher Management

Obviously, this is a no-no, even if your point of view is correct. Those who would rather be right than promoted almost always get their wish.

2. Problems with Team Building

You need to be good at spotting talent. Building diversity, developing talent and helping your people work together effectively are also core capabilities that you can’t do without for very long.

3. Problems Developing Working Relationships

If people don’t want to be around you, your career is in trouble. Bullying, isolation and being out of the loop in various ways all torpedo corporate careers.

4. Lack of Follow-Through

When you consistently forget to follow up on promises and don’t attend to important details, people notice and question the wisdom of handing you anything else to forget.

5. Problems Moving from a Technical to a Strategic Level

Here’s where engineers and other highly technical people can stumble and find themselves unable to go beyond what they know in order to formulate more complex strategies. If you’re on your way up the ladder from a highly technical role to a more managerial one, be sure to ask your boss for some feedback as to whether your strategic skills need honing.

6. Assuming Something Other Than Your Own Hard Work Will Take You Where You Want to Go

Being overly dependent on a powerful boss or some other advocate, or even on your natural talent, sometimes causes high-potential people to get a little lazy. “I know I’ll make VP this spring, because all the important people are on my side,” a rising young star once said. Wrong — he was passed on the inside lane by somebody who had just made a great presentation to the senior VP. The only person who can get you noticed and promoted is you.

Anything on that list sound familiar? If not, take a second look or consult a friend. Psychologists tell us that self-evaluation is a terrible indicator of performance. To be on the safe side, ask somebody who knows you well (and will tell you the truth) to have a look at the list and give you some objective feedback.

When it comes to keeping your career on track, what you don’t know about yourself could definitely hurt you.


19 Apr

Yesterday on Sanyu Breakfast we discussed Abortion and the fact that despite it being made illegal it is still very much legal in Uganda – this is to say it is rampant and happening despite the law
of course the ensuing debate then degenerated into whether or not it is right or wrong/ should it be illegal or not – this morning we had totally moved on to other arguments (something about ‘is a government ever justified to shut down social medial like face book in the name of national security) to curb civil uprisings etc.. anyway that distracted me from yesterday’s topic- but this morning I found a response to the debate sent me by Lisa and it was really a good read – I submit to you Lisa R. ‘s opinion on Abortion
The show is now finished but I still had to comment on this particular issue. In countries where there is an extensive social safety net and extensive education in schools etc then the issue of the illegality of abortion is an entirely different discussion that the one you guys had this morning. In some societies where birth mortality rates are low, access to medical care is universal, and general social infrastructure is in place to support both mother and child, a woman/girl who becomes pregnant as a result of rape, defilement, incest etc then there are systems in place to support the declaration of illegality of abortion. In those instances a child has a good chance of being adopted, provided for by social infrastructure and mothers, particularly victims of rape etc have access to post trauma care etc they can afford to declare abortion illegal.

However in Uganda the reality is very different. Where culture, morals and traditions converge in law but are not supported in social infrastructure there is no way that an absolute position of ‘right and wrong’ can be taken. I’m not making a pronouncement on whether abortion is right or wrong, but the SOLE point I wanted to make is that all these declarations of right/wrong traditional African values, NEED to be backed up by some kind of infrastructure. Until or unless that is there, the debate is merely superficial and a bit indulgent really.

Long after people stop shouting about their positions on what other people should do and go home to their middle class lives away from the stark reality of the vast majority of people around them, women are still dying in delivery rooms because of a lack of access to quality medical care, children are still being abandoned by starving parents who can’t even provide for themselves, women are still struggling to find food to eat or jobs to support themselves, people, yes including campus students, are still battling the wars in their own minds of tradition versus modern education and making poor choices as a result of that conflict. So, make abortion illegal, if you want, but in so doing, make sure that you have the safety net to support these mothers and children. That too is a moralistic obligation.

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